OK, wait: how did you "accidentally" ship this to this person? Did you know you were shipping it? Did you agree to sell it to him, and did you both agree to terms? Did money change hands? Did you accept money before you shipped it?The sale is finalized when the parties come to terms, not when the buyer receives the item. There isn't a "grace period" when, just because he hasn't received the item, you can back out - especially if you agreed to terms and were paid.I ask you: how is it you sold something that you weren't "intending" to sell? Maybe I'm missing something. I've re-read your post and I still can't figure out what, though.You say "I sold something", and then realized "I didn't want to sell it". It's too late at that point, unfortunately - a deal that is completed is no longer a deal, it's a transaction. Yes, the buyer could agree to rescind the sale, but it is completely up to him whether he does that or not. Your personal feelings notwithstanding, making an emotional case (whining) to get something back that you consciously packed up and shipped after receiving an agreed price for isn't good form. Let it go. Chalk it up to experience. We all make mistakes. Don't compound yours by whining about it. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but life doesn't usually afford "do overs" when something comes up that changes your mind. Based on my questions in the first paragraph, please provide more detail, because to me this sounds like a simple case of sellers remorse. I'm afraid, regardless of what you think, that the buyer has every right to keep what he bought. I'm sorry: the buyer can't read your mind when it changes, and he isn't required to.
Bless you, Rick for looking beneath the surface!
I am the buyer!
My side: I am refurbishing an old club date kit for my grandson. I started a thread about the resto job and in the thread, I asked if anybody had period correct Zildjian cymbals for sale so I could complete the kit. Vibes responded and told me he had a set of hats and an 18" crash/ride. He wanted $120. for the hats, and a $100 for the cymbal. He told me they were Zildjian A's so I went for the deal. I sent Tim a Postal Money order for the full amount and I paid extra for Priority Mail so he wouldn't have to wait. Tim confided in me that he really needed the money, that he had a ton of stuff to get rid of, and that his wife was giving him some pressure to sell off some drum stuff. I wanted to help the guy out by getting the money into his hands asap.
The money order arrived, Tim cashed it and he told me he would ship the cymbals shortly. A week later, I sent him a pm asking if the brass had shipped yet. He told me no, but that they would go out the next day. He shipped the following day.
Two days later... before I even got the cymbals, he started calling me and telling me he made a terrible mistake, they were 50's cymbals that were worth 'much more' than what I had paid him. I went to ebay to see what 50's 14" hats were selling for and the average price turned out to be between $150 and $250 depending on condition. I paid him $120 for the set. He really hadn't lost much in the sale. I explained to him that I was buying the cymbals for my grandson, that he only lost maybe $25 to $50 on the sale, not to feel too bad about it. He agreed, told me to enjoy the cymbals when I got them and that maybe I should consider keeping them for myself. I told him, no thanks, they were going to be part of my grandson's first drum kit. At that point, I put the whole thing behind me and waited for the cymbals to arrive.
It wasn't over by a long shot. Tim kept writing, telling me he changed his mind, I 'had to' sell them back to him because he made a mistake. He had changed his mind, etc, etc, etc. It rapidly escalated to harassment. He'd write me notes saying, "I've been talking to other people and they say you're wrong, if you were a decent person you'd sell them back to me."
I will tell all what I told Tim. Not -my- problem! I bought those cynbals for my grandson. I paid what he asked for them. I did not haggle the price. I paid for the items and he cashed the check. Only after they were in the mail did he start all this sellers remorse stuff. To the point of being obnoxious, insulting and annoying about it. This thread is nothing more than more manipulation to get me to give him back the merchandise he sold me! Balls!
I'm an honest trader. Many people here have done transactions with me and they went smooth as silk. I have gotten to the point where I refuse to sell back the cymbals simply because I do not want to give in to his arm twisting.
My grandson will be getting the kit in just a week or two. He'll be getting a complete kit... cymbals and all. I'll be sure to tell him that if he ever decides to sell the cymbals, to give Tim first crack at them. I don;t think he's ever going to sell them though.
They were a gift from grandpa!
Tim- I answered you in private, you refused to accept no for an answer, so here it is in Public. Your manipulative tactics won't work with me! Drop it, they're not going back. If you're so upset about the mistake of having sold them, for $25 more than I paid you, you can buy another set on ebay!
I'm all done here. For all of you that pre-judged the situation... next time get all the facts from both sides before passing your half-informed harsh judgement.
John
