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I think now is a good time to finally write a post/thread that I have intended for a very long time. Despite being a bit more active on DFO as of late, my drum forum experience started here, and I want to give credit where credit is due. (The same community for the most part)

You see, I am feeling a bit more grateful lately, and recently shared with someone what VDF (and DFO) has meant to me. The recent event that has sparked this:

While working on the flagging crew, I was standing behind an asphalt hauler. The driver and I did not see each other, it backed into me (my back), knocked me over and as it kept going it ran over my feet, right leg. I suffered 2 crushed feet (including a severe sprain) and a clean (Thank God) broken tibia & fibula (shin bone) on my right leg (BD foot). If hit anywhere else, I would have been much more injured including a likelihood of death. I was very blessed from the getgo and have been blown away by the treatment and care. I now have a rod in my tibia along with screws and such. Surgeon says after my rehab and recovery (4 weeks to walk, 12-16 weeks overall) Today is day 10 and the surgeon gave me a very good report today on my follow-up appointment. I should make a full recovery and the only long-term or chronic problem is the possibility of the feeling like I have a pebble where my incision is just below my knee. I have been touched emotionally by the treatment and care – making me realize that my heart really needed this love and care/ attention.

I have been divorced since 2008 and have not even dated since – lived alone, and my recent experience has reminded me of my emotional journey through and after my divorce.

My marriage was such that it really devastated my self-image and self-esteem. After the separation, I found myself broke, but – free -- and decided to start finding cheap things to do to enjoy. I started learning about my drums here and about MIJ drums in general (and American despite the MIJ focus and eventual learning of drums from Europe and all over the world). Soon I discovered that I was learning very fast, it was easy to learn, and I soon became a teacher, not just a student.

My steady growth of knowledge and the following opportunities to mentor to younger drum enthusiasts really transformed my confidence, self image, and self esteem. Despite the same that eventually followed in other areas of my life, it was here that it started, this vehicle*, that helped me rebuild my self-image and gain confidence in general.

This is not just a forum, it is a fellowship. While it is not a church or anything like that, it certainly is a place where I have felt the promotion of growth (AKA Love) and it has made a huge difference for me in my life.

THANK YOU to all of you who have ever made a contribution, financial, or otherwise, to this community. While perhaps not the intention of the founders, I believe this phenomenon is a blessing to us all regardless of anyone’s spiritual/religious beliefs, and I will always be grateful.

*Anyone catch that drum terminology?

I had a great day! Instead of sleeping in and wasting the day, I got up at 8 and I had all my slacking done by noon!

2Timothy1:7
Posted on 9 years ago
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I've been lifted by this community twice and that means a lot to me. First when Mom passed away 3 years ago and only a couple of months ago when Ludwig, my dog passed away. The words of comfort and understanding on both terrible times for me still resonate deep inside of my soul. Its a mystery to me how total strangers can get together around their passion and be there when someone is down. I can totally relate with your post drummerjohn333. I wish for you to keep growing to a better place in your life through the passion we all share: VINTAGE DRUMS!!!!

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Posted on 9 years ago
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I think your gift of positivity [the red squiggly line tells me that's not a word but I like it] in the face of a traumatic event is something to behold. The outlook for your recovery really takes the edge off a scary story - I'm really glad to hear it. Actually relieved! And again, as you say, we don't even know each other. I think people find meaning in each other and that's it. Everything else is a theory. Unless you don't mind living alone with your theory on a rock...:)

Mitch

Posted on 9 years ago
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So wonderful to read your post.

I picked up the drum hobby after a breakup (in October 2011) that sent me into the blackest depression, one that at least took me to the lobby of the local mental hospital, not quite inside.

About a year later I rescued several pieces of a CB700 drum set that a neighbor was about to dumpster (it also included a Rogers Supreme Big R hi hat stand!), Craig's Listed enough other pieces to make a playable kit, and was hooked hard.

Learning to play and collect and refurbish drums has been a crucial part of my recovery.

Participation in this forum has always been a pleasure.

-Erik
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Early '70's Slingerland New Rock #50 in blue agate (20-16-13-12)
Late '50's WFL Swingster/Barrett Deems in black/gold Duco
'70's Slingerland Gene Krupa Sound King COB
early '70's Ludwig Acrolite
'80's Ludwig Rocker II 6 1/2" snare
Rogers Supreme Big "R" hi hat

Posted on 9 years ago
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I appreciate your post and agree that VDF is a special place. Funny but i too took up drumming mid life after a horrifically painful divorce. I've learned a huge amount about vintage drums I even scare myself. But I think the moderator Tommyp is a hug part of what makes this the friendliest forum there is. People here are positive and fun.

Stay healthy and get better fast 😀

The greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you. - Joyce Meyer
Posted on 9 years ago
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Great thread! Amazing that an online community can really truly be such a positive force in so many lives... my own certainly included. Special place out here in inter webs. :)

Not a Guru... just interested..
Posted on 9 years ago
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"THANK YOU to all of you who have ever made a contribution, financial, or otherwise, to this community."

Buddy, thank you for that post. That made my day. I'm sorry that you had to go through all of that- especially the accident. I'll pray for you.

Your post reminded me of what I often forget- and it's what my 5th grade teacher used to tell us in class. 'Be thankful for today and be thankful for what you have because it could be gone tomorrow'. She also said, 'Life is too short to be mean to people.'

And you're right- this is a great forum. The friendly, helpful members like you are the reason why. Rawk on, DrummerJohn.

Posted on 9 years ago
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Hi John. Man sorry to hear about the horrible accident. Hope recovery continues to improve. I can't imagine the pain you've endured. You've been through a lot. Sounds like we all have a lot in common. I was married at 19 and divorced and a single Dad at 20. I had full custody of my son. The divorce really messed my head up too. I moved to a new place where I could play my drums and had good schools for my son. Great therapy for me. Met my current wife 7 years later. Best thing to happen to me. Hang in there man. Things WILL get better. Blessings!

Glenn.

Not a guru just havin fun with some old dusty drums.
Posted on 9 years ago
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I'm touched to read your post.

Wishing you that full recovery.

And yes I really enjoy this forum and have learn't so much from it.

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Posted on 9 years ago
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In the face of adversity or personal anguish, many may not have the strength to carry on their daily lives, or even life itself.. With the entire world in turmoil, and very little hope in many aspects of our current world, it's very easy to lose faith in almost everything one has believed to be positive, prosperous, or physically and spiritually fulfilling in one's life..

I too have gone through some tumultuous times in my life with depression, drug abuse, violent, explosive and careless behavior, having a mentally ill sister who has attempted suicide more than once and almost succeeded 5 years ago, fly by night and promiscuous relationships, and a general feeling of uselessness.. This type of outlook on life can very easily and quickly take a wrong turn, as it did for me one night, having nearly overdosed on cocaine, amphetamines, and binge drinking. This lasted for 5 years, until i met my wife. Since then, my life has changed for the better..

I quit smoking, cut down o the alcohol, exercise 4 times a week, and have been writing material for the past 2 years for an album i will begin recording in earnest next week..

Although i wasn't a part of VDF at the time of my "rock n roll" lifestyle, for lack of a better term, in the past 2 years since i've joined, i found myself a lot more positive, a lot more experienced regarding my vintage drum knowledge thanks to helpful fellow forum members, and always look forward to reading posts and viewing pics almost everyday.. In short, it's a place where i can come to when the world gets annoying, tiresome, troubling, depressing, unsettling, and down right boring ;)..

I'm really glad to hear that you're on the way to a full recovery and wish you nothing but health,luck and prosperity in the future days ahead..;);)

Posted on 9 years ago
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