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I Must Keep Playing

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Hello all, don't want to come off as a whiner, but there comes a time when you must let it out. My life has been a rollercoaster ride since October 16th, the day the love of my life was put into a assisted living facility. Now 9 months later she's still there with zero chance of returning home, her son has kicked me out of the condo I lived in for fourteen years with her. It's my own fault I suppose for not insisting that we got married. She owned the condo and gave power of attorney to her son years ago. I never saw this coming while we were together. I moved into an apartment with my daughter and grandson.

Sometimes I just feel like giving up drumming, the storage place I use to rent to rehearse is no longer excepting bands. To make matters worse, I suffered a small stroke two months ago causing me to miss a lot of work, I can still function physically like nothing happened, but mentally it's changed me. There are days when I feel normal, but there are also days when the anxiety is overwhelming.

I feel like I want to start playing again, I've been in contact with a few bands, but then I'll have what I like to call an episode, I feel like I'm going to die. That makes it difficult to pursue a band because I don't know when one of these episodes will hit. I'm a complete mess, taking antidepressants as well as Lipitor.

I had to sell most of my gear, including most of my cymbals. If it weren't for Robyn gifting me a kit a few months ago, I'd have no kit at all.

I just want to feel like myself again, where I got excited about drums and drumming. Just when I feel like I'm getting back into it, I'll slip into a deep depression.

I keep telling myself, I must keep playing.

Posted on 3 years ago
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Man, the hits just keep coming. Not sure how to help from here, but will keep you in my prayers. Maybe check with a local shop to see if they have a "free" or cheap space to bang on some days to help with the urge.

How are the Common Law facts in your area?

Posted on 3 years ago
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Hi johnnyringo. It seems you’re going through some very difficult times concerning your health which should take priority, IMO. Playing drums is an important part of you’re feeling good time but first need to feel good health wise. Focus on your health, daughter and grandson. Drums will still be there on the side.

Posted on 3 years ago
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Hi Johnny,

May I suggest that you take your free time available for music and work on

hand development. Get something like Buddy Rich's book on rudiments and

, on a pad, go to work. Put a couple of hours a day/7 days a week into practicing.

You'll be amazed what it will do for you.

You might also work on your reading skills. Books are very inexpensive.

Then when the right opportunity comes you'll be very proud of your new skills.

Your friend,

Nick in Michigan.

Posted on 3 years ago
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If you can't hook up with a band, how about giving drum lessons? You could make a little income doing so and help develop the talents of the next generation of drummers.

Posted on 3 years ago
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Mark. I'm terribly sorry for your situation. If you're able to get on facebook in your area they have local groups that you could post for a place to practice, or swaping lessons for a place to use as a practice space etc. Maybe as mentioned try giving lessons. Brother you're in my prayers.

Your drummers not much good is he!? What you need is someone that's as good as me. ! John Henry Bonham !!
Posted on 3 years ago
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My deepest sympathies are with you jr

But that being said I had mini stroke 6 years ago and I have my issues

mainly with my thoughts and little drooling and droopy side of face very minimal but I notice it and try not to let it bother me.

My drumming is not quite what it was, at age of 70 I’m still working (selfemployed historic restoration)

And dreaming of the old band getting together

soon !

Take it one day at a time

my thing is my 19 year old she is a junior at cmu Pitsburg a major in vocal performance !

she won the lead in 2 operas the coming school year

She make s me step up and I need that to be my best

Im just saying. Find a reason to pull yourself up from the boot straps and don’t look back at the bad

look for Gods graces he will be with you bud …. Gary aka houndog

April 2nd 1969 scarfed pink champagne holly wood and 65/66 downbeat snare, and , supra same year very minty kit old pies
66/67 downbeat with canister
Super 400 small round knob
1967 super classic obp





once the brass ceases to glitter, and the drum looses its luster, and the stage remains dark, all you have left is the timbre of family.
Posted on 3 years ago
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Thanks guys, I'm trying to stay positive. I went to a minor league baseball game last night with my daughter and grandson, I felt so relaxed sitting there watching the game, all the worry was gone for those few hours. I was thinking about having a beer, but after I saw the $8.50 price, I said nope, don't need it that bad.

Gary, you mentioned you had a mini stroke, is that what they refer to as a TIA? I had blockage in my left carotid artery, my head and neck MRI said it was mild to moderate. I had a CT angiogram done a three weeks ago. I hadn't heard anything for a week, so I decided to call my neurologist, I wasn't able to talk with her or her nurse, but the woman I spoke to said it was normal. I'm not sure what that means, I suppose I'll have to wait until I see my neurologist later this month.

When I left the hospital they put me on Lipitor and a baby aspirin. I've heard a lot of bad things about statin meds and I'm wondering if I should get off them. I'm going to talk with my doctor today.

Posted on 3 years ago
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WOW, how quickly things change when you leave for awhile!. Im no expert on medical issues but i do have experience with folks with all sorts of depression, anxiety, addiction, etc issues, and all i can suggest is ask God for strength to deal with these concerns. If they are open, visit a few churches over the next month or so, and see if you feel comfortable with one of them. If you open up, you will feel the hand of God....blessings

Hit like you mean it!!
Posted on 3 years ago
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Now, that's the best advice I've ever read on here!

I second the motion.

:)

Posted on 3 years ago
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