Well, I think you have to understand the politics and reality of the band with "the leader." I have been in this band for twenty years and have known the leader since 1972. He's a very talented guy, owns and operates a state of the art recording studio, and he's the final word, period. He's a good-hearted, honest man inside and he has never screwed us over financially, but he runs the show and he is the boss. I can complain and argue all I want, and we have had some heated arguments over the years, but the bottom line is, it's his band and he runs the show. If he asks me to bring a small kit due to space restrictions, I'll be a good soldier and do it. Another thing you don't know is, this band has multiple members, meaning there are three other drummers he can choose to cover gigs. I'm the longest-surviving drummer, so I have a some seniority, but if any one member becomes difficult or a PITA to work with, he can easily get someone else to cover the gigs. I like to play on most weekends, and while I'm in two other bands, this particular band is still my main source of musical work and money. I have a lot more freedom in my other two bands, but in this particular band, I'm a paid sideman. I accept that reality and deal with it. He puts a lot of money in my pocket and has done so over the course of the last twenty years, between $120-130K if my estimates are correct.
I hope that explains things.