Well, before it got any worse I quit the band. We had a meeting today before rehearsal and we talked about our issues, it started out civil and the one guitarist was being sort of a mediator between me and guitarist I was having a problem with. I thought we were good and we could move on, but the problem guitarist starts bringing up something that had happened two weeks ago about me changing the set list. I did make some suggestions because our female lead vocalist had like a 5 song gap where she was not featured. Anyway, that showed me this was not going to work and left before I lost it. I returned a few minutes later and told them I was out of the band. The problem guitarist says he's out too, so we all agreed to disband. It's a shame because we were really, really good, but I don't need stess in a band, I use to put up with it in other bands when I was younger, but no more.

There you go. It's exactly what i would do. My patience for petty arguments and animosity caused by overblown egos or any other situation, has long passed. My tolerance for that now is zero. Your preemptive strike on deciding to quit the band will pay off in the long run. Hope you get a chance to play with guys who can appreciate and respect your playing..

cheers,

Rob

Regroup with the friends of yours 3 piece

In the white room with black curtains

Unless you NEED that band to put food on the table and clothes on you back, you did the right thing.

And even if you DO rely on that gig for food, you probably STILL did the right thing.

I have made essentially zero dollars since I was six years old with music. On the contrary, I have paid my dollar$ and dues in blood, sweat, tears and dollars. Do it for the music. If you heart isn't in it, it shows.

So, I could have been in other 'cover' bands over the years, even tried out for a few blues bands as a "side gig" but it never panned out. But I also never compromised myself for the ca$h, and stayed true to myself and the music.

If you don't have band mates who get that, it'll never work out. Play the best music you can, and if the money comes, that's just icing on the cake.