Well, keep playing regardless buddy! You sound like a good fella, keeping your family first. I had to make that decision several years ago, and although I miss playing with a full time group, in no way does that compare to being there for your wife, kids, family, etc. And.. not many people I know are able to say that they making a living at playing music and only music. Of all my music buddies, I only know 2 who are full time musicians.. one is blessed to play upright bass for Billy Joe Shaver, the other teaches and plays percussion in broadway type productions in Houston, TX. As it is, in the long run, I think your decision will pan out great for you and your family.

Manny - Do what you have to do for your family first and everything else will find its place. Being in-between bands is a chronic condition for most musicians. Being in a successful working band is even rarer. After 50+ years I've learned to take it all one day at a time and in stride. Go with the flow. Right now, for you, the family demands attention. When it's time to play again an opportunity will present itself and if you've been keeping your chops up, you'll be ready for it. All of it in rhythm with the Universe.

Do what you have to do brother. Everything else will follow...

John

It is ashame how military and ex military are now treated, Manny you are a solider you know what is important in life family is first and foremost. It all happens for a reason, keep your head high it will all come around.

I feel compassion here having been going through employment problems myself. Hopefully you can still find it to play sometimes.

Praying for you and your family, Manny! Take care of them first. Drums and drumming will always be with you anyway!

It's all part of the cycle of life. Oh and by the way your buddy Alan in Texas got my the Gretsch 20" black nitron bass drum thanks to u.

You'll find your way back soon. Just do not sell your kit! I can't count the times now over the years I've had that conversation of "I used to be a Drummer" followed by "I sold my kit years ago" followed by "I never got round to buying a new one". These aren't all bedroom boys and girls but people who gigged too.

Good luck fella.

Is that good or bad?

Don't worry folks I will always keep about 3 kits and 2 sets of cymbals around! Actually have a cool Sonor kit in the works as we speak. I know the band stuff will come back around. I guess for me its harder to stay motivated to practice when I have no "practical" application.

I might start giving some lessons again. Trying to teach always challenged me to play better.

Manny

I suggest you check and see if there are any community bands or orchestras that you can join. Even though there is usually no compensation you get to associate with other musicians and it helps keep up your playing and reading skills. Another option is local jam sessions. If none you maybe able to start one yourself. I know doing what I suggest seems difficult to do once you have had reasonable success with some very good musicians but it is well worth the effort. Good luck to you Manny. Take it from an old, been around the block part time drummer, there is a lot of opportunity to play out there and everything will be OK. Jerry.